Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Don't listen to your jerkbrain.

1. The thunderstorm that cooled down the air making it a bearable temperature again.

2. The combination of leaves on the trees and Cornell students going home making it possible for me to change without worrying about being seen by the frat boys across the street.

3. There are a bunch of these, but I think this is the best one.

4. Why Do We Care More About Diversity On TV Than in Our Schools?


This bad ass nine-year-old.
6. A long overdue documentary about rape in the US military is coming out soon.

7. On the subject of violence against women, I really appreciate this piece about how rape culture affects even the most innocent interactions between men and women.
Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It's nothing that's going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.
If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.
If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?
A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual that violence befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.
8. To make up for the heaviness of #7, hang out with the calming manatee for a little while. 

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