Sunday, September 30, 2012

no more than home

1. Say what you will, but I love me some Mumford and Sons. The new album came out last week, and it is perfect listening for this rainy weekend.

2. Felisa sent me some pictures she took after the Femme Show last weekend. Here's me and Natalie in our coordinated outfits with some coordinated beer.



I know this body is impatient.
I know I constitute only a meager voice and mind.
Yet I loved, I love.
I want no sentimentality.
I want no more than home.

- Robert Creeley

5. I was just cleaning my room and found the little notebook that I wrote my "Rules for My Own Damn Self" in. I've added a new more rules since I last shared it, so I thought I'd go ahead and put them all in one place, for your convenience:

1. Always leave the party right after you've had the most fun.
2. Tell the people that you love that you love them. Especially before hanging up the phone.
3. Never say "I love you" if you don't mean it.
4. You don't have time for people who don't have time for you: 3 strike rule. (This is mainly about potential friendships/relationships. Established friends don't count).
5. Have time for the people you care about.
6. Always replace an empty toilet paper roll, or inform someone of the situation.
7. Leave a space better than you found it.
8. If you say you'll do something, do it.
9. Know who your friends are.
10. When it comes to doing the right thing, pretend that money doesn't matter.
11. Don't loan money if you can foresee resenting it if it's not returned. Also, think about your motivations for your generosity.
12. Always be stronger than they think you are.
13. Don't take naps after sun down.
14. Unplug everything before going away for more than 24 hours.
15. Homie don't play that game.
16. Keep in touch.
17. No caffeine after 5pm if you have something you need to get up for in the morning.
18. If you hurt someone's feelings, apologize for it (your intention should never be to hurt someone, so even it was the unintentional effect of an intentional action, apologize because you didn't mean to hurt them).
19. Offer help even if you doubt that you can be helpful.
Most things make you feel worse when done on an empty stomach.
21. Change them with kindness.
22. Bring food to share.
23. Re-examine the roots of your beliefs and assumptions on a regular basis.
24. If someone challenges your beliefs or assumptions, try to see it as a chance to find more clarity.
25. Don't apologize for your emotions. Be accountable for your actions.
26. Don't feel bad for needing to take care of yourself (eat, sleep, pee, have self-space). Don't take it personally when other people need to take care of themselves..
27. Make things.
28. Be polite, gracious, and friendly to waitstaff, retail clerks, and check out people. 
29. Tip well.
30. Say "Thank you" and "have a nice day" like you mean it.
31. Beer before liquor, NEVER BEEN SICKER.
32. Tequila is only okay if it's the only alcohol you're consuming that night.
33. Do what you can do.
34. Eat at least one naturally green thing with every meal.
35. Where you are going is almost never so important that it's worth getting a ticket or endangering yourself/others. Drive safely.
36. Never become immune to beauty.
38. Do your best not to perpetuate the systems that oppress you or others, but recognize that feeling guilty isn't in of itself productive.
39. The time and energy spent on hating your body would be better spent on pretty much anything else.
40. Don't be afraid to ask questions, but don't do it unless you're gonna listen.
41. Save listening to songs on repeat for when you really need it.

Friday, September 28, 2012

Jailbreak the Binary

Somebody posted this google chrome app on facebook that claims to give you a gender free internet experience. Curious about what that would look like, I downloaded it. It consistently cracks me up, much like my Sherwood Forest message alert tone.
As an experiment, I wrote "Girl. Woman. Dude. Man. Penis."  on Natalie's wall.
This band is actually called "Of Monsters and Men."

"Mom's Chicken Soup"

"She's crazy, am I right?"

"Man oh man"

"Oh my God."
It should be noted that this app does not change how the things that I write appear to other people on their computers, nor does it affect gmail. I recommend it, for the laughs, and also because it makes you think about how common gendered language is. It's also good practice using non gendered pronouns!

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Dress Classy, Dance Cheesy

1. Maybe you've already seen Psy's Gangnam Style, but in case you haven't, here it is:
As Natalie and I were watching this a few weeks ago, we were both certain that we didn't know what was going on - but that maybe, there was actually something going on. Check out this article explaining what this video might actually be about. 

Ellen's real into Gangnam Style. When Psy  first appeared on the show, he said that his motto is "dress classy, dance cheesy." I'm down with that.

2. I'm loving this song, and everything by Emeli Sande. 



The river is famous to the fish.

The loud voice is famous to silence,   
which knew it would inherit the earth   
before anybody said so.   

The cat sleeping on the fence is famous to the birds   
watching him from the birdhouse.   

The tear is famous, briefly, to the cheek.   

The idea you carry close to your bosom   
is famous to your bosom.   

The boot is famous to the earth,   
more famous than the dress shoe,   
which is famous only to floors.

The bent photograph is famous to the one who carries it   
and not at all famous to the one who is pictured.   

I want to be famous to shuffling men   
who smile while crossing streets,   
sticky children in grocery lines,   
famous as the one who smiled back.

I want to be famous in the way a pulley is famous,   
or a buttonhole, not because it did anything spectacular,   
but because it never forgot what it could do. 

- Naomi Shihab Nye

Monday, September 24, 2012

Sherwood Forest

1. Lucille and Mitt. Pictures of the mom from Arrested Development with quotes from Mitt Romney. 

2. On Friday, at a variety show about the femme identity, I watched a female impersonator perform a dance to "If I Were a Boy." It was one of the more beautiful things that I've ever seen.

3. Air that smells like fall.

4. This texting conversation between myself and Felisa, and the Sherwood Forest ringtone alert tone that makes me happy every time I hear it:

Me: I changed my message alert tone to "Sherwood Forest" and it cracks me up every time.
Felisa: Must listen to this.
Me: Oh god it's so good.
Felisa: Shut up Hel. I just listened to it. That is a hot mess!!!
Me: It's the best thing that's ever happend to me.
Felisa: You are so easy to please. This is why I love you.

4. You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.
Anne Lamott 

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

belly fire

"And of several things of which I'm almost positive, one is that if I live to be an old woman, I won't be sitting on my porch berating myself for having leapt into a swimsuit to swim in warm ocean water at every opportunity even though my thighs were dimply."
- Anne Lamott, "Traveling Mercies"

2. A High School English teacher taught me and my friends to eat cupcakes this way, and I've never looked back. Listen to me. It is the best way to eat a cupcake. You can hold it like a sandwich, grasping it from the top and the bottom. You get the same amount of icing in every bite. Just try it. You'll thank me.

3. I've shared this recipe before but I really must again. Whole wheat bread with crystalized ginger baked in. If you like ginger, this is like the holy grail. Eat the bread with some honey, or (ideally) peach jam.

4. This Quaker meme (thanks Laura/facebook)!

5. This little guy just wants to be friends with Spiderman.

6. Pretty cute.

Sunday, September 16, 2012

300th Post!

Hi friends. Today I'm going to list some things that I'm liking about living in Boston.

- Being within walking distance of most things I need.

- Passing an average of 3 community gardens every time I walk around Jamaica Plain.

- Being within walking distance of a handful of my favorite people, including my kind of sister. I haven't lived in the same city as one of my siblings since childhood, so this is really great.

- So much diversity everywhere. Including diversity of dogs. I've seen every kind of dog. 

- There are loads of art museums and other interesting places.

Yesterday I went to the Institute of Contemporary Art, and it blew my mind.
Here are some of my favorite pieces:

A fantastic collection of work by Os Gemeos, Brazillian twins Otavio and Gustavo Pandolfo. 
There was this piece in the museum:

No Fundo De Mar E Respirar Mas Facil (It's Easier To Breathe at The Bottom of the Sea)

And then this piece on a building we passed on the way to the museum:

And then my favorite part, a huge installation by street artist Swoon. The ICA has a huge glass elevator, and as you rise, you can see this fantastic hanging sculpture that continues all the way up to the top floor. On the first floor, we discovered that pieces of the sculpture trail into the lobby, leading to this mural. It's just the coolest thing.

Thursday, September 13, 2012

gyrate into that voting booth

1. I've already posted this song, but the video came out recently, and it's chill giving. For more about the Free Cece movement, click here.

3. Another gem from the Good Men Project: 25 Things I'd Like My Son to Know.

4. I'm filling out my absentee voter request form and sending it in right now. Have you got everything in order to vote in the upcoming election? These things have a way a sneaking up on you. Get it done.

5. How did I live on earth for 24.5 years and not know about the blanket octopus. You guys. BLANKET OCTOPUS.

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Too Bad We're Out of Brownie Mix

Okay friends, apologies for my inactivity. I have a good excuse though: I have recently undergone a major life change. At the end of August, I said goodbye to Baby and Ithaca, packed up my things and moved to Boston. Jamaica Plain, to be exact. Everything is awesome here, aside from the fact that I don't have a job yet. We'll get there eventually.

1. On the subject of moving to JP, let me tell you the story of our new couch!
On Friday night, Natalie and I were walking back from dinner at my kind-of-sister's apartment, and came across a coffee table that someone had put out on the curb. We weren't sure if we wanted a coffee table, so we were discussing it, when a man walked out of the house. 
     "You should take that table!" he said, "Do you want a couch?"
We did want a couch, not so much the coffee table. He described the couch, said it was free, and told us to come back on Sunday at noon. We arrived at noon on the dot today, with two rolls of rope and Natalie's 1991 toyota camry. A crowd of this guy's friends watched as the couch was hefted onto the roof of the car, and then they all left. Neighbors continued to watch from their windows as Natalie and I tied the couch around the car as many times as the rope would go. 
      Just as we had determined that the couch would probably stay on the roof for the 1.5 miles that we had to go, a man with a thick Boston accent approached us and said "Listen, you're not going to make it a block with that couch." Apparently he'd been watching us from his house (his wife was still peering at us out the window) and had decided to come offer his assistance. "I have these straps though," he said "that I use to keep my boats on my car. I'll strap the couch on for you, you just have to promise to bring them back." Done deal. He strapped on the couch, we drove back, carried the couch into our living room (where it fits perfectly), and returned the straps.

A very successful adventure, and a great experience with some friendly JP folks. 

This is the back of our new house, by the way. 
2. 20 Badass quotes from the women of the Democratic National Convention.
My favorite: "Reproductive freedom means economic freedom. And that's what this debate is about." - Colorado Rep. Diana DeGette

3. 12 Hilarious Reviews of a Pen Just for Women.


Late Fragment

And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth.

Raymond Carver