Monday, March 25, 2013

what you're gonna teach your son


The House Across the Street from the Westboro Baptist Church is Getting a Rainbow Paint Job


"You Made Me I & II" by Pan Hawkes

3. The recent case of the Steubenville rape is of course incredibly upsetting, but what has come out of it are some great discussions of rape culture and how far it has permeated our society. Some of the best pieces that I've seen are the following (Trigger Warning):
"The fact is that once these boys enter the prison system, even ​in juvenile detention, chances are that they will return to it. It will, with little doubt, fuck them up more than they are already fucked-up. They will not likely emerge from prison as two well-adjusted men who respect women and understand that sexual assault against them is not okay. That's not what prison does for people. "
The truth is that I am someone’s wife. I am also someone’s mother. I am someone’s daughter, and someone’s sister. But those are not the things that define me, or make me valuable in this world. Those are not the reasons that I should be able to live a life free from rape, sexual assault or any kind of violent crime.
"Your vulnerability should not invite assault and attack of your body or your spirit. And so I am sorry, because  we have failed to teach your male peers that they have no right to touch you without your consent or to use you to meet their needs or to discard you if your victimization does not fit their life plan. I am sorry we have failed you."

4. This poem isn't in response to Steubenville, in fact it was written quite a while ago, but it's a heartbreakingly articulate description of rape culture (Trigger Warning):
Text here.

5. A little something from Phillipa Rice to leave you on a happier note:

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

There there

1. Good public health education. In Mississippi, sex ed teachers can't demonstrate how to put on a condom, so this educator has found a way to get around that:

more from Ruby

3. I made a soup this week that was very successful. I was particularly pleased, as I didn't have recipe and winged it. It was a miso soup, kind of like this, but different. First off, Stop and Shop didn't have straight up miso paste so we bought the little packets of instant mix. I also roasted the tofu with a little soy sauce, sesame oil, and minced garlic before putting it in the soup. Used dried shitake mushrooms from Maggie, as well as a stir-fried onion with garlic and more ginger. Used the whole bunch of kale. So good!

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Don't Let Nobody Steal Your Joy!

More from Hajin Bae here
2. One of the drivers of the shuttle that I take to work is the friendliest guy. He says "good morning" to every single person who gets on. He talks loudly to the bus about how he's going to make his fortune giving lectures to undergrad students on how to safely cross the road. As you get off the bus, he says "Have a wonderful day. Don't let nobody steal your joy!"


To Girls Like Me, With Hearts Like Kindling

Darlings, sometimes love will come to you like a fire
to a forest. When it does, be braver than I was. Just leave.
Take only what you can carry. No tears, no second thoughts. 
You have hands like tinder boxes, the smallest spark
will kill you.

Get in the car. Take water to the maps. Avoid gas stations. 
Don’t look at the flames dancing in the rear view mirror. 
Go to new cities, climb on the rooftops and slow dance with
your coldest memories. Wallpaper your new home with every
dusty, desperate love letter you swore you’d never send. 

Find a stranger with sharp edges and uncharted hips. 
Press your stories into their skin and forget you ever knew 
his name. Just promise you won’t think of embers or smoke.
Even when there is ash in your hair. Even when there is soot
in your lungs.

Clementine von Radics 

Monday, March 18, 2013

Try Not to Be An Asshole

1. A little late to talk about now, but I had a great birthday last weekend! Two favorite pictures from my celebration:
I didn't see what was in the display window behind us
until I looked at this photo after it was taken.

Os Gemeos street art!

2. I just really love John Darnielle.
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more comics from Beth Evans here

Sunday, March 3, 2013

collection of sacred objects

See more fantastic drawings by Georgia here.
2. This article about a fraternity that banded together to raise money for a trans* brother's surgery
“We are here... to tell a story. The story of transformation, the story of self-discovery, and the story of brotherhood.”

3. Of course, I did not like the Oscars this year. I did enjoy the Oscars party I went to though, and then spending the next few days reading all of the fantastic critiques on what was unacceptable about the jokes made during the Oscars. This article sums it up nicely: at the very least, the immediate outcry against the sexist and racist jokes spoke louder than the jokes themselves. Maybe we're getting somewhere. 
My friend Lauren hosted a great party, complete with a red carpet photo booth
equipped with homemade props!
4. Amazing poem by Kavindu "Kave" Ade.